Til death do us part

Sunday, June 05, 2016


About nine years ago, I bought this blue dress at Banana Republic for a trip to Palm Beach with my husband Richard.  I adored the color and the fit...it was so flattering. I wore it to The Breakers for dinner and to a gallery opening on Worth Ave. I sipped champagne in this dress and thought I looked pretty darn smashing doing so.


However I made a huge mistake one day and tried to iron the dress without realizing the temperature setting was on high. Needless to say, I planted a nice big scorch mark on the skirt of my beautiful blue dress.

You would think I would have tossed the damaged garment out right then and there. But no, since 2007 it has hung in the back of my closet--you know, that place where the "til death do us part" pieces go.  I told myself that one day I would try to repair it (like that could happen) or that maybe the mark wouldn't be noticeable in the evening with the lights down low. Ha! Who was I kidding? But every time I tried to throw the dress out, a force stronger than nature pushed it back into my closet.  I just didn't want to get rid of the happy memories the dress represented. 

As I was closet weeding last week (something I do regularly, I swear!), I came across the dress. Just for the fun of it, I tried it on.  The truth hurt. It no longer looked smashing. Nine years later, the dress now shows every bump and bulge--and to make matters worse, the iron mark stuck out like a sore thumb. What was I thinking? Blue dress, you served me well but it's time to part ways.  



We all have clothes that spark happy memories...that dress that you wore on the first date with your boyfriend or husband, or that top that you wore on a trip to Hawaii.  Don't let yourself be fooled into thinking that by holding on to these "sentimental" pieces, you're keeping the memories alive.  If your clothes don't have a function and don't work for you NOW, say goodbye and good luck. 

XO Susan

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12 comments

  1. I threw about 5 bags out not because of scorch marks but because of extra poundage! :( Enjoy your week!

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    1. Those clothes don't deserve you Katie! Better they're gone than take up valuable closet space :) XO

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  2. You did look absolutely amazing in that dress, and I'm so glad you wore it on such happy occasions!

    I, too, think it's important to let go of clothes that don't serve us anymore. They just take up space and ultimately make getting dressed harder...

    I hold on to a fair amount of clothes that I only wear occasionally (some only once a year or less often), but I do try to let go of clothes that are too tight or damaged. I once held on (and wore!) a shirt that was bleached on the back, and I only wore it with a cardigan on top. But once I went somewhere where it ended up being insanely hot. Yet I didn't dare take off the cardi. That taught me to let go of damaged items...

    Andrea
    Andrea’s Wellness Notes

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    1. Totally agree with everything you said Andrea! It's a funny thing though---once in a while a piece of clothing tugs at our heartstrings like this dress did for me. But finally after all these years I was able to say "see ya later". Clothes can be so emotional! Have a great week and thanks for commenting! XO

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  3. Have you thought about cutting it off, hemming it, and making it into a nice top? Might we worth a shot. The top of it is the prettiest part of the dress anyway.

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    1. Great idea but the whole things no longer fits well...9 years later there are a lot more bumps :(

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  4. Love this post!!! I'm getting ready to keep closet editing myself- a continuing process as things get worn out or I get grayer!! Thanks so much for the fun and sweet inspiration ☺️����

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    1. Thanks for the sweet comment Naomi! It's a never ending chore!

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  5. I have a number of clothes that I hang on to for sentimentality's sake. Sometimes it's hard to let go of clothing that we've had good times in - it's as if our memories are woven into their very fabric.
    I allow myself to keep a small part of my closet for 'memory clothes' but when it's full I have to part with one item. Kind of a one in, one out. It works for me.
    Michelle
    http://www.thebarefacedchic.co.uk

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    1. Thanks for sharing Michelle! I like the one in, one out system :) Have a fabulous weekend. Checking out your blog now! XO Susan

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  6. I took a whole quarter of my closet (at least) to the women's shelter yesterday including sentimental pieces like the shirt i wore on the first date with my husband. i figured i have the picture, let someone else use the shirt who could really use it. i also let go of my wedding dress earlier this year...donated it to angel gowns by diane who makes burial gowns for babies who go to heaven too soon. i did cut a portion off the bottom in the hopes that my boys' spouses will somehow be able to use it as a "something old" on their wedding day.
    so glad i found you through the preppy empty nester blog :)

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    1. Thanks so much for sharing Nancy! It feels SO good to "let go" doesn't it?
      It's the memories that count, not that stuff :) Glad you found me too! Happy 4th! XO

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